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The Truth Behind The Masks of BPDA look at the reality ofhealing from BPD. Recovery can onlytake place when a borderline isprepared to deal in truth, the wholetruth and nothing but the truth. Thetruth is often walled in and hiddenbehind the many masks of BPD.NOTE: I want to clearly state that BPD is real andso it the pain and suffering of those diagnosed withit. When I talk about lies and deceit in this articleI am not discounting the reality of the pain, angstand turmoil of BPD. I am referring to the struggle forself and the challenge of letting go of the lies thatwe learn to tell to protect ourselves in order to findidentity.When one has just been disagnosed with BorderlinePersonality Disorder (BPD) and or when one hasnot yet achieved a certain amount of recovery -the truth about who you really are is oftendissociated or fragmented from your authenticself. Your authentic self is buried under thepain, the fear, and has been left behind atthe developmental stage at which you were lastable to be, for the most part, yourself.For many borderlines that separation from selfoccurs at a relatively young age when, emotionallythere is too much pain, abandonment, abuse experiencedto hold onto to one's real self without losing thoseupon which one is dependant for their safety, security,and other basic needs.
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Here's where the borderlineputs on the first mask of false self.Whatever danger to one's psyche exists or has beenperceived by the borderline causes them to put ona mask of defense mechanisms in order to survivethe turmoil. Mask number two.To further survive the annihilation of self theborderline than puts on mask number three - denialand or dissociation.Mask number four is borderline behaviour designedto protect at all costs and ususally motivatedby triggered dissociative fragments of past-realitythat are played out again and again through eachnew situation that unfolds in the life of the borderline.Unable to distinguish their familiar feelings fromdifferent experiences borderlines react in extremelypatterned ways to all eventualities. They react eitherin extremes and vacillate between push and pull, closeness and distance in an effort to undo what has beendone to them.The masks of the borderline are walls that block him/herfrom him/herself as much as they block others fromhim/herself. These walls are built with pain and dispair.They are added to with depression and unmet needs.Those very walls block the borderline from his/her truth.Being blocked from one's personal truth - and authenticself without knowing this consciously leads manyborderlines to add to the other masks the mask ofdeceit.The mask of deceit is worn for protection.
The truthwas too painful to deal with in the past. The truthcaused the loss of authenitic self to false self.The false self perpetuates this within one's psychewith illogical thoughts and beliefs. These thoughtsand beliefs are very child-like. They don't have tomake sense to the borderline for him/her to adhereto them anyway.What starts out as deceit for protection oftenleads to outright lying to live. Lacking one's trueself one then lacks the truth of who they are.This lack of truth can be seen in many borderlinesactions. While there is truth to their plight andto their pain it is often expressed through untruthsso as to protect it.It is this very untruthful expression of dissociatedand or fragmented reality that can make helping aborderline so difficult. They come to believe theirown lies.
They lie to protect. They lie to be heard.They lie to build the kind of drama that they thinkcannot be ignored in the same way as they perceivetheir 'real' pain and issues have long-since beenignored.The lies and untruths of the borderline mask theirreal pain and their real torment. The differencebetween what is untruth or truth gets lost in theborderline struggle for validation.Sadly, it is easier for many to hear, see andbelieve the pretend, or the faked - because forwhatever reason they go on dismissing the realitybehind BPD in the first place.In my experience the world was so eager to acceptthe predominant mask of my fake face.
It was just aseager to reject my true face, masked though it was.Behind each mask lived a legacy of pain.Behind each mask lived the loss of my self.Behind each mask lived a facade that led to anotherand another. It was a maze of untruth that housedmy authenticity within it. No one wanted to lookthere. Or, if they did, I would quickly dawn yetanother mask to ensure that they fell short oftheir targeted goal - whatever that might trulyhave been because for years I was terrified at themere notion of 'looking there', looking within.behind all of the masks that harboured, at their verycore, the unprotected face of my true-identity.It took years to unravel what was real and whatwasn't real for me. It was my need to deny andto dissociate from a very painful childhood in orderto continue to hold mommy and daddy out as allgood - lest they be all bad - that led me toinvert reality. I suppose this was a choice.
Idon't remember consciously making it, however.Looking back I realize that it was at the ageof nine that a part of me knew that myreality needed to be surpressed in order forme to go on. Thus, the birth of this rulingfalse self that would be BPD in me. It wouldtake me 35 years to conquer that false selfand to find my authentic self.How did I do that?
Well, the short answer isby getting HONEST. There is no room in therecovery from BPD for the lies, the pretendingthe faking, exaggerating forms of defensemechanisms. I had spent a lifetime behind somany masks.
Peeling them away one at a timefor years, only changed my 'game'. It didn'tsucceed in revealing the 'real me' to anyoneuntil I found the courage and the strengthto seek out this 'real me' from the insideout first.I think some therapists I had saw thisredeemable true 'me' long before I did. I hadno idea that I was living in such a dissociatedfragmented falseness. My pain was real.
Myabuse was real. My childhood nightmare was real.I had pushed all of that down inside so deep thatmy reality became what I made it. I made it beabout sprained knees, sprained wrists, cuts,bruises, seizures, anger - rage, physicalintimidation, fighting, smashing glass - anything,anything physical, so that I wouldn't have to digdeep down inside of my psyche and my soul and experiencethe terror of that little girl (inside of me) ever again.But, that's what it took to heal. It took megetting real - looking at the real issues andnot covering them up with misrepresentations of mypain anymore.
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I had to face that all of my physicalsymptoms, pain and injuries (real and faked) weremasks for the real pain that lay deep within me -the emotional pain that a very traumatic childhoodhad left me with and scarred by.I believe that one's authentic self is thereunder all of the masks, the denial and thedefence mechanisms and the games, waiting to be found.Until a borderline can find this sense of authenticself the false-self (which only perpetuatesBPD) rules. Your false-self will only serve toincrease your pain and terror at every turn.
Theagony, the angst, the depression, the mood swings,the illogical thoughts and feelings that predicatethe world of 'borderline behaviour' will persistif you insist on trying to hide behind the masksof untruth.To recover from BPD you must get real and very honestwith yourself and with those who are trying to helpyou. This means trying new things and believing thatyou can be okay - survive new a very painful experiences,like learning to be alone and learning to stop abandoningand re-abandoning yourself - or like taking care ofyourself as opposed to collapsing to be rescued byothers.The borderline must re-build his/her ego from the insideout. Borderlines must be willing to deal with the truthand nothing but the truth in order to get well. Theymust step out from behind some of the most creative andintelligent masks of deceit, self-protection, drama,chaos, anger and the like in order to re-experience thepain that they have been hiding from.It is the re-experiencing of this pain in a new way,as an adult, and not as a child, that enables healing totake place. Each borderline must reclaim both his/hertruth and pain in order to learn that the 'monster' thatthey are running from is not out there but isinside of them.
The 'monster' of BPD lies within thepsyche of each and every borderline. The 'monster' isthe repressed pain and trauma of the borderline and itis NOT the person with Borderline PersonalityDisorder.The truth is that getting honest and staying honestlyauthentic can and will tame that 'monster' inside.You need to safely let your pain out. It is your painthat is fuelling your anger, your rage, your depression,your acting in and or your acting out. Your pain iskeeping you away from the most precious person in theworld - your REAL self.Just as I, and others have, you can walk through yourpain with the help of a competent therapist and reclaimyour truth, your 'authentic self' and your real face.Peel off the masks. The world awaits the expression ofyour true face. Face yourself in the mirror and let thetruth of that expression set you free.© Ms. Mahari - September 3, 2000as of January 5, 2002.
Show map of the United StatesLocationNY 276,Built1931 ( 1931)ArchitectLouis A. Simon, James A. WetmoreArchitectural styleGeorgian RevivalNRHP reference No.Added to NRHPSeptember 10, 2014The Overton Corners–Lacolle 221 Border Crossing connects the towns of to on the.
This crossing is open 24 hours per day, 365 days per year. Because the village of has two border crossings, this one is called 221 to indicate it is the crossing on.
The other crossing is the immediately to the east. Conversely, the US Border station is sometimes called 276 because it is located on.During the era of, this crossing was one of the busiest on the US-Canada border.
The roads leading to it in both the US and Canada were in good condition and was a popular route for traffic traveling between. During that era, it was common for large queues of southbound traffic to build up approaching US Customs, as people attempted to into the.In 2014 the brick inspection station on the U.S. Side was listed on the, along with other similar border inspection stations in New York and elsewhere along the Canadian and Mexican borders. Contents.Overton Corners Border Station Architectural description The Overton Corners Border Inspection Station in located at a bend in the road of New York State Route 276 at a crossroads with Canadian Route 221.
The Canada Border Station is directly north and in an unusual arrangement is on the same side of the road and shares a common side lot boundary. There is a lumber yard directly across the road from the station and these buildings together with a few early 20th century houses form the corner of Overton Corners. In the 1920s through the 1950s, there was an island separating the north and southbound traffic on the Canadian side of the border. The border runs east across a wide open area of fields locally known as 'the knuckle'. From the north, pavement markings and signage divert cars to the station's three lane inspection bays via an oval, concrete drive.
The east facing building is set on a flat, grass covered lot, with the typical border station landscaping arrangement of about six symmetrically placed spruce and hemlock trees spaced across the property. Public parking is provided on the south side of the building.The red brick station is in a four-part plan composed of a 1 1/2-story center block with two single story wings on its north and south facades and a perpendicular truck inspection dock extension at the end of the south wing for an L-shaped plan. There is a three lane inspection canopy extending from the east facade of the main block. The center block is five bays wide with five clapboard sided, front gable dormers placed on the slate covered gambrel roof on both east and west elevations. There are two interior end chimneys. Brickwork quoins ornament the building corners with cast stone keystones and sills at each of the window openings.
On the first floor, sash is the original 12/12. On the second floor, the dormer window openings are arched with 8/8 Gothic sash. The center entry has a double leaf replacement glass and aluminum door.The north and south wings of the building are divided into four arched vehicle bays on the east and four bays of 12/12 sash on the west facade. They are a single bay in width beneath covered hip roofs. Quoins are repeated at the wing corners.
On the south wing, the inspection shed, one bay opening has been closed, and three bays have their original wooden overhead doors. Attached to it is a taller addition beneath a hipped roof. This section is entered by a double width overhead door. On the north wing, the garage, there are four wooden overhead doors.The flat roofed inspection canopy which extends to the east in three lanes is topped by a wrought iron railing on three sides and supported by its original paneled wooden piers. Sash on one dormer has been removed and replaced with a door to give access to the flat roof of the canopy. On the west facade a clapboard covered storm vestibule was added in 1934.On the interior of the main block the first floor is open across its full width.
Two paneled counters separate this full width public space from three offices and a bathroom at the rear. The counters are themselves divided by a short wall, behind which is the center stairs which connects basement to second floor. Interior finishes throughout the building are largely intact with plaster walls and ceilings, and architrave door surrounds. Flooring on the first level is original red tile set in a concrete border. Carpeting has been added in the offices and the ceilings on both first and second floors have been lowered and installed with recessed fluorescent fixtures. At the foot of the stairs into the basement is a large safe.
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The balance of the basement space is devoted to mechanical equipment.The second floor has a double loaded corridor with two detention rooms, two toilets with original wood stall partitions and pedestal sinks and four office rooms. The spaces are currently unused.In 1958 the south truck dock was added to the building, a standby generator was installed in 1966, and in 1968 the main entry was replaced. Construction history and space inventory Building details Square FootageBuilding DimensionsFloor Area Total:6725Stories/Levels:2First Floor Area:3762Perimeter:375(Linear Ft.)Occupiable Area:0Depth:0(Linear Ft.)Height:33(Linear Ft.)Length:0(Linear Ft.)Construction history Start YearEnd YearDescriptionArchitect19310Original Construction19380Install Mirrors at CanopyTreasury Dept.19580Truck Inspection DockGSA19630Canopy & Roof ReplacementGSA19660Install Generating Plant EquipmentGSA19680Misc. Repairs & AlterationsGSASignificance The Rouses Point Border Inspection Station at Overton Corner in Rouses Point, New York is one of seven existing border inspection stations built between 1931 and 1934 along the New York and Canada–US border. Georgian Revival in style, the building was designed by the under, during tenure of the Secretary of the Treasury, and constructed between 1931 and 1932.
At the time of its construction was Superintendent of the Architectural Section. Border stations were constructed by the federal government in New England along the border with Canada during the 1930s and several common plans and elevations can be discerned among the remaining stations. Rouses Point-Overton Corner shares with the others a residential scale, a Neo-colonial style, and an organization to accommodate functions of both customs and immigration services.Border Stations are associated with four important events in United States history: the imposition of Prohibition between 1919 and 1933; enactment of the which was followed closely by the Depression; and the popularity of the automobile whose price was increasingly affordable thanks to 's creation of the industrial assembly line. The stations were constructed as part of the government's program to improve its public buildings and to control casual smuggling of alcohol, which most often took place in cars crossing the border. Their construction was also seen as a means of giving work to the many locally unemployed.The Rouses Point-Overton Corner border station is one of the best preserved in New York. It is the only station to have had an addition made to it. While the border stations have all sustained systematic alterations, they have retained, in varying degrees, most of their original fabric.
This station is on both exterior and interior a fine example of the building type, its character defining features well-maintained and intact, the addition a compatible and equally well-crafted one. History The era of Prohibition begun in 1919 with the and extended nationwide by the ratification of the in 1920, resulted in massive bootlegging along the Canada–US border.
In New York, early efforts to control bootlegging were carried out by a small number of Customs officers and border patrol officers who were often on foot and horseback. In many cases New York Custom Houses were a mile or so south of the border and travelers were expected to stop in and report their purchases. The opportunity to remedy this situation and support enforcement of the Prohibition laws was offered by enactment of the Elliott-Fernald public buildings act of 1926 which authorized the government through the Treasury Department to accelerate its building program and began its allocation with $150,000,000 which it later increased considerably.Rouses Point was the main point of entry for bootleggers who traveled along the so-called Rum Trail which was Route 9 between St.
Jean in Canada. At the time Prohibition was repealed, the Rouses Point-Overton Corner border inspection station had been in operation for a year. Rouses Point had two new stations and the one at Overton Corner was especially important as it was on the only paved road across the border, so was heavily traveled. The end of Prohibition did not mean the end of smuggling, as the public had developed a taste for Canadian liquor and its bootleggers had discovered the money that could be made smuggling raw alcohol into Canada where prices for it were considerably higher. Rouses Point continued to operate to interdict this activity.While the seven New York border inspection stations had been designated for construction as early as 1929, land acquisition and the designing and bidding process was stalled at various stages for each of the buildings and their construction took place unevenly over a period of five years.
Overton Corner was finished mid-way among the stations. It is still in active use. Statement of eligibility for the National Register of Historic Places The Rouses Point-Overton Corner Border Inspection Station is one of seven border stations in New York which are eligible for the National Register according to Criteria A, B and C.
The stations have national, state and local significance.The station is associated with three events which converged to make a significant contribution to the broad patterns of our history: Prohibition, the Public Buildings Act of 1926 and the mass-production of automobiles. Although this border station was not completed until a year before the repeal of Prohibition, it was planned and built as a response to the widespread bootlegging which took place along the border with Canada and continued to serve as important role after 1933 when smuggling continued in both directions across the border.
The station has been in active use for sixty two years.Conceived in a period of relative prosperity, the Public Buildings Act came to have greater importance to the country during the Depression and funding was accelerated to bring stimulus to state and local economies by putting to work many of the unemployed in building and then manning the stations. Local accounts make clear the number of jobs the station created. Local labor was used to build the station and residents were appointed customs inspectors.The Overton Corners Border Inspection Station is associated with the life of Louis A.
Simon, FAIA, who as Superintendent of the Architect's Office and then as Supervising Architect of the Procurement Division of the United State Treasury Department was responsible for the design of hundreds of government buildings between 1905 and 1939. During his long tenure with thegovernment, Simon, trained in architecture at MIT, was instrumental in the image of the government projected by its public buildings, an image derived from classical western architecture, filtered perhaps through the English Georgian style or given a regional gloss, but one which continues to operate in the collective public vision of government. Simon was unwavering in his defense of what he considered a 'conservative-progressive' approach to design in which he saw 'art, beauty, symmetry, harmony and rhythm'. The debate which his approach stirred in the architectural profession may still be observed in the fact that he is often omitted in architectural reference works.The border inspection stations do not individually possess high artistic values, but they do represent a distinguishable entity, that of United States Border Stations whose components are nonetheless of artistic value. This station at Overton Corners is an excellent example of the choice of the Georgian Revival style which was considered appropriate for the upstate New York region. It is almost a duplicate of the station at and is among the most elaborate of the stations.
Its construction is of the highest quality materials and workmanship. It has integrity of setting and feeling associated with its function, and has retained the integrity of its materials.There is no evidence that the site has yielded or may be likely to yield information important in prehistory or history. See also.References.
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